Generally I am an easy going person. It takes a lot to push me over the edge before I jump down your throat, but when you appear to go above and beyond the point of being polite to your own friend that is when I get angry. I don’t mean not opening doors or letting your friend have the last bite, its when they say something and don’t follow threw with it.
This week I have a prime example of dropping the ball. My friend, lets call her Mary, so Mary called me up earlier this week asking to crash on the couch for a night. Her dad is in the hospital and I’m near by so of course I said yes and when she would be crashing. She said Thursday night, and I asked what time she would be over. Mary said that she did not know what time exactly but will call me up and give me a time and ask for directions to my new place later in the week.
Thursday came and went. I texted her this morning and she said it slipped her mind to call me when plans have changed. Now you must be thinking “Shad Girl, you are an anal bitch for getting upset with Mary since her dad is in the hospital.” My response to you dear reader is have you every had anyone over to your house to spend the night? It takes time to clean, organize, and accommodate your guest’s space. Also I hate flaky people, and I understand that you may have a lot on your plate and you are not really focused but damn you called me. Plus it’s not like I am the only one living here, my man is here as well and if we are busy… well you can see where that is going.
What got me this was one to many times I call a friend up and asked if they want to hang out sometime that week. I usually ask them what day and time and poof enter flakiness. They never call back and when confronted they say it slipped their mind. Now I don’t mind planning event and get-togethers with friend but when you are doing it all the time that blows. Friendship is a two lane road; if I am the only one putting effort into it then maybe this friend is not for me.
So remember a little courtesy goes along way even in friendship.
See you on the other side
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